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CoachTube: Attitude

Drop the attitude and get into the gym!

Rebecca Hinds: 1 Trait Women Executives Share

Athletics can help women succeed in the business world.

Especially for parents

C’MON!!! CALL THE FOUL REF!!!

Having been involved at every level of youth sports for 40 years - as a player, as a coach, and as a parent - I recognize how well intended, but severely misguided, many ‘youth sports parents’ are.

Their sideline antics are taking the fun out of the game. Statistically we are seeing kids drop out of sports at an alarming rate. It breaks my heart.

Attention Youth Sports Parents:

Screaming ‘Call the foul, ref!’ serves absolutely NO positive purpose. None.

Even if a foul was missed... you yelling it DOES NOT HELP IN ANY WAY.

1) The ref missed it. So what? It happens. It’s over. Move on. You screaming doesn’t change anything. 

2) You are unconsciously teaching your child that it is OK to make excuses, to blame someone else, and to complain when things don’t go their way. This breeds entitlement and lower performance.

3) Referees are human beings. They have feelings. Giving them a hard time actually DECREASES the chance of the ‘next call going your way.’ Referees have unconscious biases just like you do. 

4) You are drastically increasing chaos and making it harder for your child - and everyone else’s - to focus, move to the ‘next play’, and have fun.

5) You are embarrassing your child. These words have NEVER been spoken in the HISTORY of youth sports:

“Hey, did you hear my mom & dad screaming at the ref during my game? How awesome was that?! Aren’t they the best?!”

6) You are making it a lot less enjoyable for the other parents and players. Remember, this game ain’t about you.

My advice?

Sit quietly, cheer if you feel compelled, and simply enjoy watching your child do something they love. 

That’s exactly what I’ll be doing this afternoon at my sons’ game....

Parents: Please stop always blaming the coach for your kid not playing!

There are a ton of lessons that can be taught while playing sports.

CoachTube: Advice to parents

This video doesn't candy coat anything, and neither should you candy coat athletics to your kids.

Parent.com: Mentally strong kids

Mentally strong kids have parents who refuse to do these 13 things.

How to destroy your child through sports

A tongue in cheek article with a serious message.